Prov.15:1 - "A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger."
He informed me, "We are never going to have a fight. We are in love." I said, "What?" He said it again, "We are never ever going to have a fight. We are in love."
How foolish of me not to know that.
You can only imagine what was running through my mind.
Well, I didn't push on this issue and let it drop. I'm sure they probably talked about me when they got into their car. I can hear them saying, "Wow, the preacher really doesn't know what he is talking about if he thinks we are going to ever have a fight."
Well, I did see them again. The first time in my office their chairs were right next to each other, they were holding hands and looking into each other's eyes. This time their chairs were apart, they were not holding hands and they would not even look at each other.
I commended them for calling and making an appointment to come in and at least seek some counseling. We were able to work together this time, as they now were ready to listen.
Words of truth will not do you any good if you will not listen to them.
When the time arrives listen to these words - "A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger."
How many times have we said something that was true and all it did was exacerbate the situation?
I mean really if someone is yelling at you the last thing you want to do is give a soft or gentle answer. You want to yell back. He/she said something hurtful so it becomes an "Oh Yeah", well take this and we serve up another red-hot put down on our loved one. Who then has to throw back something more hurtful and the cycle is vicious and ugly.
Now she doesn’t want him to do that because she wants to continue the fight because in her mind she hasn't won the argument, but when he says this she thinks no matter what I say I can't win now, so she drops it.
The argument is over and putting it in the words of Solomon - "A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger." This same approach can be used in the workplace and with friendships.
Remember the words of Solomon - "A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger."
You need to have something that you're going to say to your loved one, boss or friend that will be the gentle answer and turn wrath away.
You also might want to remember if you say the hurtful things it is like throwing gasoline on a fire. Are you ready to pay the price for the explosion and damage that will be caused by this behavior?
You say the hurtful things and they will not go away no matter how many times you say you're sorry.
So do yourself a favor and don't say them. Speak the gentle answers that bring the arguments to an end without hurting anyone.
Think on This:
In an argument, the best weapon to hold is your tongue unless it is going to give the gentle answers.
When a person uses profanity to support an argument, it indicates that either the person or the argument is weak and probably both.
Gary A. Serago
Minister of God's Word
Gary A Serago.